{One Question} You Should Ask Someone Going Through A Divorce

Thoughts on closing a marital chapter.

There is nothing easy about going through a divorce. Mine was certainly no exception. Even though I was well supported by my family, it was an emotionally exhausting season for everyone close to me. Despite knowing it was the next right step for myself (and inevitably for Brave), it took a long time before I stopped viewing my divorce as a failure. As I watched my dad finally find love in his 70’s, I began to understand my marital status didn’t define me. Even though going through a divorce was certainly a defining moment, it was merely just a chapter of transformation in my story that was still being written.

As I’ve mentioned before, divorce was something I was not immune to growing up. You would have thought I’d be an expert at knowing how to best show up for others who were experiencing this kind of heartache. Unfortunately, for years I allowed my faith to drive my response by reminding those struggling in their marriages that “God hates divorce.” I was a shitty friend with an agenda mastered by fear.